If you want to feel better… Make peace with your closet.
Dressing is nonverbal communication, a reflection of your self-esteem.
Is your personal style a true expression of the woman you are now?
Is your wardrobe attracting new opportunities or holding them back?
You’re more likely to get what you want when you look the part.
Here are 4 steps to help you be the best version of yourself:
1. APPRECIATE YOUR BODY NOW
There is nothing wrong with your shape unless you choose to believe the contrary. When you live in the past (longing for the body you had in your 20’s) or in the future (dreaming about the body you could have if you lose weight), you deny who you are in the present moment. Comparing yourself with photoshopped images from magazines and the media is self-punishment. What if you could see yourself as the divine masterpiece our Creator has designed you to be? Stop waiting to have “the right weight” to be happy and feel gratitude for All That You Are. Cultivate a loving relationship with your body and enjoy its miraculous existence.
2. RECEIVE COMPLIMENTS WITH GRACE
Are you rejecting the good that comes your way? Do you say things like: “No way! Look at my belly, I’ve gained weight”, or maybe “You can’t be serious, this jacket is so old”, or “Really? It’s a cheap dress, I bought it on sale.” Think about it. Next time you attract spontaneous praise from The Universe, resist the urge to put yourself down. Pause. Smile. Then calmly look at the person in the eye and say “THANK YOU.” That’s all. No explanations required. Abundance wants you. Let it in.
3. DETOX YOUR CLOSET
Whether you are aware or not, your closet is filled with happy or sad memories (energy). You can look at a handbag from a trip to India three years ago and remember: “That was a great trip, I had so much fun”, or look at a dress and say: “This is the outfit I met my husband.” It’s okay to keep items that spark pleasant memories and make you feel good. The opposite is what I consider toxic to your well-being. Here is what 3 clients shared when I asked them why they are keeping a specific item:
Client# 1: “This brooch was a gift from my ex-mother-in-law.”
(What I heard: This item reminds me of a relationship that didn’t work. Holding on to failure.)
Client# 2: “I like this dress but my ex-boyfriend told me I looked ugly in it.”
(What I heard: This item reminds me of that verbally abusive man. Holding on to unworthiness.)
Client# 3:“It’s my sick sweater, I wear it when I feel sick.”
(What I heard: This item reminds me that I get sick often. Holding on to disease.)
How can you ever feel good if what you keep contradicts that desire? By letting go of unwanted clutter, you release stuck energy and open up space for the new to come into your life. It’s like telling The Universe: I’m ready for change! You can’t feel excited about your life when you are lost in a sea of bad memories.
4. DRESS EVERYDAY LIKE IT’S YOUR BIRTHDAY
Are you saving your best clothes for someday? It breaks my heart to see you postponing your joy because you can’t love your body now. Life is a precious gift lent to us for a while and I ask you to play full-out. Every day you are born again. You’re alive. You’re awake. Celebrate! Your closet can be a source of fun or frustration. You choose. Wear clothes that you love regardless of how crazy, dressy or sparkly they are. Don’t make excuses or second-guess woman… JUST DO IT!
Fabulous authentic style doesn’t just happens.
It happens when you commit to being your best self inside and out.
Practice these 4 zen wardrobe secrets and you’ll be happier!
Rock Your Wardrobe,